What is Indecision? What are the Causes?
Indecision can be defined as the inability to make a decision or choice. It is necessary to determine whether indecision is a mental illness or whether it is caused by laziness, indifference or lack of motivation.
True indecision is the inability to come to a conclusion about what or what is right. The minds of indecisive people are constantly preoccupied with thoughts that their decisions may be wrong, that if they make the wrong decision they will regret it later and that they cannot bear the responsibility. These thoughts are often accompanied by anxiety and fear.
What are the most common causes of indecision?
- Lack of self-confidence
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- Fear of making mistakes
- Thinking about what others will say
- Don’t wait for the other person to make the decision
- Inability to offend the other person
- Inability to say “no”
- Dependent personality structure
- Facing a subject about which they have no knowledge
- Identity confusion
- A troubled, conflicted environment
- The dominant attitude of the other person
- Every decision involves negative consequences
How to make a sound decision?
List the Advantages and Disadvantages:
When you are undecided, instead of struggling with the possibilities swirling around in your head, take a pen and paper and list all the possible possibilities and all the advantages and disadvantages that come to your mind, the problems and solutions that may arise within these possibilities. Evaluate what the majority of the items on the list and their contents mean to you. You will find that your decision making becomes much easier.
Use the 10/10/10 rule:
This rule suggests that when you make a decision, ask yourself how you will feel about it in 10 minutes, 10 months and 10 years. Your first question answers how the decision affects you now. The second question asks you to think about when you will start to experience the real consequences of your decision. The last question allows you to reflect on the time when you will face almost all the consequences of your decision and reap the full rewards. In this way, you have thought a decision through, evaluated it and reflected on its long-term consequences. This will motivate you to take the decision or go for the other option.
Take Care to Make Decisions on Your Own Volition:
Asking for opinions from others will help you when making decisions, but in the final stage, take the responsibility on yourself. Avoid making decisions that you are not comfortable with and that you will not stand behind. If your decision doesn’t turn out the way you want it to, accusing others of influencing you can cause great regrets for both parties. So, whatever happens, take steps in accordance with your own wishes.
Pretend to give your friend an opinion:
It is always easier to look at things from the outside than from the inside. When making decisions for yourself, you may have to think for days. However, when a friend consults you for advice, it is much easier for you to comment. Accordingly, when you need to make a decision, evaluate the situation as if a friend were asking you for help. Have conversations on your own, ask questions, think as objectively as possible and make your decision.
Is Indecision a Mental Problem?
Indecision cannot always be attributed to a mental problem. There are moments in everyone’s life when they have difficulty making decisions. In order for indecision to be considered a mental problem, it needs to be examined from several different angles. The following items should be considered and if these items are valid for the person, then it is necessary to suspect that there is a mental problem.
- Negatively affecting the person’s life
- Causes stress
- Causes waste of time
- Causes deterioration in relationships with other people
- Limiting productivity
- Interfering with his work
Indecision is often related to personality structure. The personality disorder in which indecision is most pronounced is obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. The more difficult it is for you to make decisions, the more anxiety and tension you feel. Eventually, this tension and anxiety can distort your healthy perspective and cause you to make wrong decisions. If indecision is caused by a mental illness or a lack of self-confidence, or if past decisions have had bad consequences, it should be treated by a mental health professional. A radical treatment of indecision is possible with psychotherapy. In such cases, you should consult a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist trained in psychotherapy.