How to eliminate jealousy
Ways to overcome jealousy, which is not considered a disease as long as it is in dose, as long as it does not disturb the other person, but which should be treated when it is not in dose…
How to eliminate jealousy Jealousy is a learned emotion, not an innate one. Jealousy is not called a disease as long as it is in doses and is not disturbing and irrational to the other person. But when it is not in dose, it is a disease that needs to be treated. In this article, we have discussed ways to overcome jealousy.
Jealousy; It is a complex mental life and negative attitude, fearing the loss of a person or a relationship, a complex mental life and a negative attitude, a feeling that makes you feel the need to have what someone else has. According to the Turkish Language Association, jealousy is defined as: “A negative attitude when someone shows superiority or when it is believed that a loved one is interested in someone else”. In a sense, jealousy is the desire not to lose what has been achieved.
Emotions accompanying jealousy:
- Sense of inferiority
- Fear of loss
Jealousy is one of the main threats in a relationship. The person may show this emotion, but sometimes he/she lives it inside. Harboring and suppressing these negative emotions also affects the person physiologically.
Physiological Effects of Jealousy:
- Excessive sweating
- Stomach cramps
- Muscle stiffness
- Fast Pulse
Jealousy often arises in romantic relationships when third parties are involved and, when taken to an extreme, can have a negative impact on the relationship.
Jealousy does not only occur in relationships. At an early age, jealousy can occur in situations such as parents comparing their children with others’ children, students who want to be appreciated by their teachers, people with ambitions in business life, sibling jealousy.
Types of Jealousy
- Sibling jealousy
- Child-parent jealousy
- Jealousy in friendship-work relationships
- Romantic Jealousy
How to deal with jealousy?
In order to cope with jealousy, you need to have confidence in yourself, increase your self-confidence, take trainings on this subject and improve yourself.
Overcoming jealousy is difficult and takes time. Give yourself time.
There will always be people more successful than you. Therefore, do not see yourself as lacking. Try to focus on the differences you have in a positive way rather than the shortcomings.
Take up hobbies.
Take care to be well-groomed. Feeling good about yourself will boost your self-confidence.
Jealousy in relationships
Trust your partner, your lover. People who feel trust from the other person are less inclined to make mistakes.
Socialize. Spend time with your family and friends outside of your spouse and partner.
Setting rules in the relationship and strengthening the bond will prevent jealousy.
If you cannot get rid of the feeling of jealousy despite trying every way, get support from a specialist. Jealousy (like anger, anxiety or sadness) can lead to bigger problems if not managed well. Mental health professionals, especially with EMDR Therapy, intervene in feelings of jealousy and subsequent behaviors and reduce the level of jealousy and make it more controllable. If the cause of jealousy is a trauma, EMDR therapy will be very beneficial for the client. Because EMDR focuses on trauma memories, eliminating the cognitive effects of these memories that continue to this day, and neutralizing the person about the memory.